How do we get to mutuality in intimacy?

First in a series of short, embodied demonstration videos teaching the principles of healthy relating:

Tiffany & Harmony

What would it be like to feel good in every moment of every relationship? To be fully present, centered strong, safe, open, and receptive?

PRINCIPLES OF HEALTHY RELATING

Sometimes it’s just hard, confusing or scary to meet and try to get to know someone new. We can have feelings of overwhelm, confusion , awkwardness, disconnection, and even shame, as we try to negotiate the intricacies of connecting and relating. Think about it, though. Every time have an encounter with another person, we must greet, meet, connect, interact, and complete.

How do we stay present and feeling good during each stage of this process?

In this video we will break it down step-by-step. We offer some new languaging and bring in some new concepts. You will learn to feel, understand and differentiate the different intentions and energies for each stage of an encounter.

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