Radical Aliveness

Healing our psyche with Attuned Eye Contact Where do feelings of shame originate? What do we know about the power and potency of eye contact? as infants, with our mothers? as adults, with each other? with ourselves in a mirror? I discuss the significance of eye contact in our identity formation.  Points covered include: Mary Ayer's book: 'Mother-Infant Attachment & Psychoanalysis; The Eyes of Shame' the 'Mother Gaze'; how initial attunement with the infant affects the infant's sense of self worth skin shame and deep shame physiological and emotional regulation through attuned eye gazing mirror gazing the healing art of offering attuned eye contact to others What is your experience with shame? 

Reach in, Reach Out, Be Touched What kind of healing, what kind of unguarded intimacy is available through attunement? My partner dance with K at Ecstatic Dance December 22. It's our third dance together. Our first dance focused on lifting, with me offering some teaching. The second dance was a combination of low to the ground dancing and a standing contact improv dance. As we concluded that second dance, K  said, "more". Which in this setting, meant, "let's dance together again, in future dances." Our third dance occurred yesterday, Sunday. We began dancing together toward the end of the Ecstatic Dance set. We 'randomly' found ourselves close to each other on the dance floor. It was about three fourths of the way into the dance event. Both of us were standing and we began with vertical dance partnering, in hand to hand contact. I became quite aware of the fact that K was moving in a way that kept missing the direct contact point, which

Did I just wake up in a state of panic because I’m at the mercy of life? Or is something else going on here?   I share a shift in my personal perspective that appears to be a game changer in terms of how I experience myself, and   approach my life.   Do I need 2 years on park benches to integrate?   Or was this an actual, core transformational experience? I don’t know. I’m excited to find out: I added a little clarification here.  What point of view am I focusing from? 

Are your inner voices serving you or limiting you? Watch how I notice, feel the impact, understand, empathize with, and then decide to dismiss that "Old Lady' talking at me.

Where do we contract? What do we habitually do with feelings of discomfort? What if, instead of resisting, numbing out, and trying to escape our moments of discomfort, we embraced them instead? Expand your capacity to enter into the exquisiteness of Being with the practice I offer here.

This installment explores Waiting. Is there value in waiting? How do we allow life to come to us, and be with what comes, regardless of its content, with equanimity, acceptance, and even joy? Part of the 'Being Seen Being' Series: Using presence as an avenue for self exploration and self-expression.

Grounded in my Guidance Open ❤️ Dancing Ecstatic Dance is Awesome! My new practice is: to remind myself that every one and every thing is on their path of least resistance. Their path of most allowing. Always moving in the direction of what they most want to be(come). MY business is: Attend to what I'm sensing, and keep my heart open and receptive. My business is: to stay-self-connected, grounded in my essential power My business is: to sense and move toward the "yes"      The "yes" which is self-affirming and oh so exquisite! My business is: to move toward the "ye"s in me, in you, in us, in the field. Let's dance our "Yes!"