Eyes of Shame; The power and potency of Eye Contact

Healing our psyche with Attuned Eye Contact

Where do feelings of shame originate?

What do we know about the power and potency of eye contact?

as infants, with our mothers?

as adults, with each other?

with ourselves in a mirror?

I discuss the significance of eye contact in our identity formation.

Points covered include:

Mary Ayer's book: 'Mother-Infant Attachment & Psychoanalysis; The Eyes of Shame'

the 'Mother Gaze'; how initial attunement with the infant affects the infant's sense of self worth

skin shame and deep shame

physiological and emotional regulation through attuned eye gazing

mirror gazing

the healing art of offering attuned eye contact to others

What is your experience with shame?

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