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Polarity creates Juice


What I want is what I have to give...
and what I give is what I want.


In my interactions with others, in dance and in Deep Contact Bodywork, one mode I take on is Receptivity.

Here's how I be in the receptive mode: 

  • just being available to receive their offerings...
  • not needing to correct their energy or offerings,
  • finding a way to take them in that also honors my need to feel safe and seen
  • "with what you are offering, I can safely, authentically and self-honoringly meet you with this response..."
  • I keep leaning in, and waiting, and 'following';
  • not directing, but sometimes re-directing, or translating their impulse, move or touch so that it supports me.

So I am wanting...to be received and 'held', accepted, appreciated; and that is what I give to them; I receive them, accept them, appreciate them.
And when I do this, they feel accepted, appreciated, received. And they give me even more love.

People want to express who they are and be received.
And when I am receptive, and embracing, that is what people want. That's what I have to offer...Receptivity, acceptance, appreciation. Seeing them.

And sometimes I am the person that wants to offer; I want to be received.
So I know this need, and the feeling I get when someone lets me give to them.

This is the polarity that we all want to understand.
We need to be the giver.
We need to be the receiver.
When we encounter one another, we need to establish
which polarity we can meet the other with.
"What polarity need I be to complete a 'circuit' with this person, in this moment?"

My 'Connection' poem says it all:

(excerpt):
I am active, you are receptive.
Separately we remain static.
Together, energies interacting,
the circuit is completed
and the power is electric!

Sometimes I am active. Sometimes I am receptive. Most important for me, is the Connection. The Juice.

It is the connection, the completed circuit that occurs when these two polarities encounter each other. That is what generates flow, connection, excitement, juice.

This occurs vertically (Spirit to matter) Connecting me to my Source
and horizontally (entity to entity; person to person) Connecting me to you.

Creating a collaborative 'we'

As humans we have access to both these polarities. We have the capacity to shift between them.

Individually, we run one or the other, and sometimes both simultaneously.
(for instance a mutual hug, or simultaneous orgasm)


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