How do I become an irresistible dance partner? (Part 2)

I anticipate a good time,

I anticipate connection,

I anticipate well-being

before I even head

to where I’m going dancing.

I bring myself with my heart

flowing

and open

and then I arrive.

I arrive

and let my focus

and my attention

be inside in my body,

in my sensational world.

And I begin to move

just how I feel,

often with my eyes closed,

just savoring being an alive,

mobile human.

Being and savoring being

in the ecstasy of being alive,

being in a body,

being a body--

With all that’s available to me:

sounds

smells

pressure

Breath.

I luscious myself up

for a while

and continue to sense

deeper and deeper.

It’s like sparking

my own fire.

And fanning,

and feeling

I am here!

Then I’ve got to rise up,

and look around,

(still from this very embodied place).

But now I'm eager

to be available,

to be accessible.

I'm eager

to be influenced.

So that what I am,

and who I am

can have some kind of exchange

of energy

to feel myself as more.

I’m looking to put some spice

and some difference

and some multi layers

into my movement.

And so I’m open,

looking and seeing.

At first just vaguely--

peripherally.

I’m seeing different people

doing different energy.

I’m measuring my energy

against theirs

and tasting to see

if what they’re doing

is something my being

is wanting.

I move closer

to have a little bit more of that

by resonating with it.

I shop a little bit

and bring my little tone.

I come near other tones

and see which ones blend

in a way that feels exciting

and harmonizing.

And when I’m drawn

I have a look,

make a little eye contact.

See if that person

is also accessible

and open--

Or if they’re completely

still in their inner world

with their eyes closed

their energy closed in.

I don’t join anybody

closed in

because they’re not joinable.

But I sense and feel

with many parts:

with my eyes

with my movement

with my smile.

And I’m looking

at nonverbal cues

whether someone’s available

enough.

First there's a little eye contact,

like ah!

Like a little brush

against somebody

visually.

And then maybe

I come back and see–

I brush again,

and meanwhile,

am partnering with them already.

My moves

have started to echo theirs.

And I’m aware of whether

there’s something

in their dance

that’s responding into my dance.

Something that’s not just

their dance

but is taking in a little bit

of my dance.

I can notice that,

I can feel that,

I can see it, I can sense it.

And those feel like little “yeses”.

So those keep me there longer--

playing with "aha, so!"…

And the way I come in

once I’ve made eye contact,

Is like, “Hi, I’m safe,

I’m your friend;

do you want to dance?"

"Let’s dance,

come play with me,”

with full expectation,

and anticipation

that they will want that,

and want me

and answer, “Yeah!”

And what I’m saying

to them is,

“Bring it on, honey!

Give me what you’ve got,

let’s play!”

And in order to do that

I have to feel really safe

and I have to know that

if I get involved in this--

and you end up somehow,

or I end up somehow

feeling, “Not anymore!”

--that I know how to leave:

“Hey, bye now!” zzzzzt

and off I go.

Or even beautifully,

“Oh, my God,

I’m so in

I don’t know how to leave.”

It could be that.

And I know that somehow,

some way,

I can trust myself,

take care of myself,

stay present in the moment,

and breathe.

dHG 3/2013