Believing that we don’t Matter

Mondays with Mike Episode 36

How painful and self-separated we feel when we are believing that we don’t matter.

This is an emotional session for me, Harmony.

I go slow and deep, not just talking about painful emotions, but actually experiencing them in the moment, within the safety of MIke’s caring. He accompanies me with warmth and resonance.

And With this support, I find the safety and holding I need in order to express, grieve, process, and experience resolution

The camera was accidentally set to capture only Mike’s presence on the video.

But maybe this was actually providential, because we get to see just how Mike shows his caring attentiveness, which signals to me that he is friendly empathic ally, and enables me to share my raw self so openly and vulnerably.

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